Monthly Archives: August 2004

7 Ways To Make a Great First Impression

When you have an important event to attend there are 7 great ways to make sure you perform at your very best.

These tips are relevant for social events and business meetings. Discover how to communicate with confidence while making great conversation.

1. Decide what you want to say before the event. Review it in your mind to make sure it sounds okay. Keep rehearsing it until you can say it with conviction and confidence.

2. Consider your potential listeners. Who will you be talking to and which topics of conversation will be welcome? You need to make sure your message matches your audience.

3.Be yourself. The worst mistake is to pretend you are something you are not. People will see through you and distrust everything you say. Even if you communicate clearly and with confidence.

4. Never expect things to work out perfectly. Be ready to deal with problems by deciding in advance what you will do. What will you do if people ignore your input? Now is the time to decide and not later on in the heat of the moment.

5. Be flexible in your approach. Different people need to be treated differently. Pay very close attention to how people respond to what you say and keep adjusting your approach until you have a good rapport with your listener.

6. Make the other person the focus of your attention and let him lead the conversation in the early stages. Let that person steer the conversation onto topics that are of interest to him.

7. Anticipate what could go wrong. Then do what you can to make sure those scenarios do not occur. Adequate planning is the key to performing at your best in the moment.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm

How to Solve Disputes with the Helicopter Talk Technique

Do you ever find that when a friend asks for your opinion on a
problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it is
for your friend?

And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck
when it comes to your own problems?

The same applies to disputes, relationship issues and
disagreements.

When you are part of the problem it can be very difficult to see
a solution. What you need at times like this is a helicopter!

Helicopter Talk Technique:

1 Imagine you are in a helicopter flying high above the town you
live in. Now travel to where you last had a dispute with a family
member, friend or work mate.

2 From the safety and distance of the helicopter above rerun the
last conversation when the trouble flared up. Watch the scene
unfold and pay attention to how you communicated rather than who
was in the right.

3 Ask yourself:

— how could you have handled the situation better?
— what could you have done differently?
— what is the solution to the problem?

Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet concerned with
finding the best solution in the same way you help a friend with
a problem.

4 Imagine a trusted friend is in the helicopter observing:

— what advice would your friend give you?
— what does your friend notice that you missed?

Your own private helicopter can be used to identify patterns of
communication you have that land you in hot water as well as new
ways of dealing with problems.

Have fun in the sky!

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm

Happy Talk and 3 Simple Secrets to Happiness

What is the one thing you want more than anything else for the
people you love the most? If you had a magic wand what would you
grant your family and friends? What is it that everyone wants?

To be happy!

How can you make other people happy until you are happy? How can
you be happy?

Lester Levenson, creator of The Sedona Method, discovered the key
to happiness. He searched for 47 years and nearly died in the
process but he did find it. Do you want to know what it is?

Lester had a breakthrough after much soul searching and found out
how to be happy only after reviewing his entire life. He spotted
a common pattern, one that was present in every happy moment.

Whenever he was feeling love towards another person he felt happy.
And whenever he felt any other feeling he was not happy.

Test this principle for yourself. Think of a time when you were
blissfully happy. Did you feel loving at that time? This works for
me every time. Is this easy or what? Simply amazing!

If this sounds too simple to work I know that you have not tested
it for yourself. Turning on a light bulb is easy too only because
someone else figured it out!

Now it is time for Happy Talk or how to talk in a way that makes
your family and friends happy…

1 Be Happy Yourself

Spend twenty minutes asking yourself:

– who do I love most in my life?
– what do I love most about myself?
– what things do I love most in my life?

After doing this exercise you will feel much happier. And you
will have done it without having to spend any money on expensive
clothes, cars or holidays!

2 Spread the happiness

Now that you feel happy you will radiate this to whoever you
spend time with. Happiness is infectious. Just be yourself and
top up the happiness by quietly asking yourself the above three
questions when you are in company.

3 Show your friends and family how to be happy

Depending on how well you know your friends you may want to
approach this step in one of two ways.

If you want to play it safe ask your friend to talk about times
when she was happy. Let her talk and just listen as she relives
those wonderful times from the past.

Share your own favorite moments too. Enjoy yourself!

If the people you are with are more open to the ideas we are
discussing here take them through the steps I covered above in
section one. Ask them these questions:

– who do you love most in my life?
– what do you love most about myself?
– what things do you love most in my life?

The Dalai Lama teaches that the purpose of life is to be happy.
Go on and live a life of purpose with your family and friends!

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm