Communication Skills Power

What is the defining characteristic of all highly
successful people?

Is it hard work? Is it intelligence? Is it luck? Well, all
of these factors certainly play a part in ensuring your
success however there is one essential element.

It is the one crucial life skill that separates the workers
from the winners. What is it?

Superior people skills.

The ability to win friends and influence people will bring
you more success, more happiness and more fulfillment than
virtually any other skill you master.

Think about it.

For you to earn more you must meet and deal with new people
in a way that impresses others. You need the confidence and
the communication skills to make the most of opportunities.

And if you want a better social life you need to be able to
connect with people outside your present social circle.
Shyness and a reluctance to do new things will restrict the
choices you have.

Finally, if you want to make a personal breakthrough in
your quality of life you have to connect with those
individuals who can help you get ahead.

Unless you make a point of improving your people skills you
will be excluded from the people who can help you to get
ahead.

Enduring success depends on who you know and your ability
to form lasting mutually beneficial relationships with
powerful people. As you step up to higher levels of success
it is critical you can deal with super successful people
without feeling shy, nervous or intimidated.

And that is why you must develop greater self-confidence
and superior people skills. Otherwise you will have created
your own glass ceiling. You will never go any higher than
your soft skills allow.

Make a point of improving your communications skills each
day and take your rightful place with the winners.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm

Although you may forget at times…

You already have a great deal of the essential
communication skills it takes to make great conversation.
The only problem is you often stop yourself from performing
at your best.

You might do this by demanding perfection of yourself or by
waiting for the ideal moment before you speak up. In either
case you are setting yourself for failure when there is a
far easier way.

Sometimes all you need to achieve a personal breakthrough
is a slight shift in perspective.

I highly recommend you adopt my simple two-step approach to
communication confidence:

Two Steps To Communication Confidence:

1. Treat Conversation Starters As A Test

Make a statement or opening comment and then put all of
your attention on the other person. Pay very close
attention to his response.

Does he seem interested? When he responds, does he do so
with enthusiasm and energy?

If he does you have found a winner. Great! Keep talking
about that topic you introduced.

If the other person seems disinterested simply regard that
response as a signal to try a different topic.

It is feedback and not to be taken personally.

Now, introduce a new topic of conversation. And again pay
very close attention to the response of your listener.

To sum up. All you do is… test a conversation topic and
pay attention to feedback.

When you adopt this outlook it will take a lot of pressure
off you. You will feel more confident about starting
conversations because as long as you prepare beforehand you
will have several potential topics of conversation.

It really is just like fishing. Throw out some bait and see
what happens.

2. Keep The Winners And Drop The Losers

The more topics you explore the greater the likelihood you
will strike gold. Just keep testing the waters for the
winners that are waiting for you.

However when you do find a conversation topic that draws in
the other person keep it alive. Share your thoughts, ask
questions and make the most of the moment. Make sure you
contribute first as this encourages the other person to
share as well.

At some point that discussion will fade. Then go back to
step one and fish for more topics of common interest.

Drop those that run out of steam and invest more energy in
the ones that grab the other person.

This is exactly what world-class communicators do. They
constantly adapt to the responses of the other person.

Why?

Because conversations are a dynamic two-way interaction. To
perform well you must put most of your attention on the
other person. Then adapt to the feedback.

This is a key distinction.

And this change in perspective can give you the confidence
to be at your best when you are dealing with people.

Forget about being perfect and instead adopt an attitude of
searching for good conversation topics.

Prepare beforehand by keeping up to date with local issues
and other matters of common interest and always be ready to
use the old favorites:

- the weather
- pets
- family
- latest news

People never stop talking about these topics and they make
for easy ways to get to know people without any pressure.

Okay, time for you to get testing.

Have Fun,

Peter Murphy
Author,
How To Communicate With Unstoppable
Confidence In 20 Days Or Less
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/

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Do you ever get stuck for words or experience embarrassing
silences when you meet people?

If you do you need to apply these 7 tips right away…

1. Use topics of conversation that have worked for you
already.

It is a mistake to feel you have to be original each time
you meet a new person. Reuse jokes, stories and news that
people have found interesting and entertaining before.

What has worked before is likely to work again.

2. Discover the other person´s passion.

We all love talking about what excites us. Ask questions to
find out what makes their life worth living.

It could be dogs, cats, children, music etc. Be a detective
and find out. Your reward will be someone who is delighted
to talk to you.

3. Keep up to date with the news.

Go to Google News each day to stay current on what is going
on in the world. Pick a few stories to talk about.

http://news.google.com/

You can read the headlines and also do a search on any
topic that comes to mind. This way you will never run out
of things to discuss.

4. Brainstorm topics of conversation.

You can do this quickly and easily at this keyword map site:

http://www.kwmap.com/

Type a word into the box in the middle of the screen and
you will be presented with related words and phrases.

If I type in pizza, I get words and phrases such as pizza
hut, pizza delivery, pasta, Ialian and delivery.

How is this useful?

Let´s say I am going to a pizza party I could do this
brainstorming exercise beforehand. And then think up
anecdotes and personal stories for each related topic. At
the party I will be ready to chat.

You can do the same in anticipation of likely conversation
topics related to the event you will attend.

5. Use the principle of reciprocity.

Give first to receive. You need to offer some personal
disclosure to allow others to get to know you. And when you
tell them a little about yourself they will feel obliged to
return the favor.

There is no need to reveal overly personal details just
keep it to small talk. It is easy to mention what you have
been doing that day or that week.

6. Each day brainstorm word associations and make a game of
it.

People who love to talk and who never seem to pause for
breath have a knack for taking one idea or topic and moving
onto a related one. They do this all day long.

How do they do it?

By letting their imagination link one topic to another.
This follows on from what I said earlier.

Keep up to date with the news and use the keyword map to
come up with related topics of conversation.

7. Practice, practice, practice.

When you are alone practice taking a conversation from one
topic to another. Talk it through aloud and let it flow.
For example a conversation on pizza:

- pizza hut, I went there last Friday and had…
- pizza delivery, it was raining and I was starving…
- pasta, I love that new sauce at the restaurant in town…
- Italian, my cousin just married an Italian guy…
- delivery, UPS dropped off my new bike today…

For each topic just let yourself talk without restriction.

Finally, remember the point of small talk is to bond with
people. You do not have to get stuck into a serious
discussion. Be easy on yourself and bear in mind
conversation is a two way street. It´s not all up to you.

IMPORTANT - PLEASE NOTE:

Knowing what to say is only the tip of the iceberg.

You must take charge of your emotional state or else you
will freeze when the pressure is on. Your good intentions
will be in vain if you do not feel talkative when the
moment of truth arrives.

However you CAN feel enthusiastic, confident and energetic
when you prepare correctly…

How?

Refer back to my book and the bonus reports:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com

1. Use lesson 1 in my book daily for social interaction.

2. Review the Conversation Fear report and APPLY it.

3. Revisit the How to Start a Great Conversation with
Anyone report and master those 15 distinctions.

Have Fun,

Peter Murphy
Author,
How To Communicate With Unstoppable
Confidence in 20 Days Or Less
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com