Monthly Archives: October 2004

Do you want approval from people?

Let go of needing their approval!

A secret to great communication is to let go of wanting approval
from others. When you no longer need their approval your nerves
will vanish, your self-confidence will soar and you´ll exude
charisma.

I often mention this principle because it is so important. As
long as you must have the permission, approval and
acceptance of your peers you are a victim of their limiting
beliefs.

You must let go of wanting approval if you are to ever have
peace of mind.

The easiest way is to learn The Sedona Method. To get started
right now ask yourself — could I let go of wanting John´s
approval? Where John is the name of the negative person.

Notice the feeling response that comes up for you and repeat the
question for at least twenty minutes until you feel lighter and
more at peace.

Do this regularly to reclaim your independence from negative
people.

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Go to this free site now to learn how to let go of wanting approval.

How to Start a Great Conversation Anytime Anywhere

How to Start a Great Conversation Anytime Anywhere

Even with a complete stranger!

I have produced a new report you are going to love. Let me tell
you…how to quickly and easily start a conversation with anyone
you meet.

Starting a conversation with someone you have never met before
can be stressful and difficult unless you have the right mind-set.
In this report you will learn a straightforward and effective
approach you can start using today.

Before I learned the distinctions I will reveal in this report I
really disliked meeting new people so much that I simply avoided
situations where I would be forced to talk to strangers.

Obviously this attitude was not very clever since it limited my
life to situations and people I was already familiar with. As a
result I missed out on new experiences, making new friends and
visiting places I was keen to see.

I changed the hard way. I had to take a job I didn’t want because
I joined the workforce after graduating from college during a
recession. As a result I started working as a sales person for a
nationwide retailer of household electrical appliances.

I was afraid of dealing with new people and there I was facing
the public day in and day out with nowhere to hide!

I learned how to do small talk, I discovered how to handle a wide
variety of people and little by little I found it easier and
easier to approach complete strangers and to engage them in
lively conversations.

You have it easy! In this report I will share the simple way to
transform your ability to start a conversation with new people.

You will be learning the key distinctions used by gifted
communicators and you will also learn some clever ways to ensure
you always have something to say.

When you order my book you will receive this $37 value report as
an extra bonus with my compliments.

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Because I am convinced that when you avail of Your Zero Risk
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How to approach new people with confidence even if you never have
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How to go from feeling tense & nervous to being confident in
moments

The best way to prepare for demanding meetings and social
gatherings

How to command attention when you talk in a way that makes people
listen

The simple way to win the approval of others without fearing
rejection

How to take charge of any fear that stops you being at your very
best

How to deal with overbearing people by taking back control of the
conversation

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Have Fun,

Peter Murphy

P.S. Have you heard what these people said?

Wow! I’m going to have fun using this stuff! There is no
question excellent communication skills are essential to success
not just for CEO’s – for anyone.

This book gave me step-by-step techniques I can use in every
imaginable communication situation, for every possible challenge.

It boils volumes of information into a compact and potent
resource for communicating powerfully, effectively and
confidently.

This is the latest “must read” for business – or personal –
success. I highly recommend you read this book if you’re serious
about being successful (or if you’d just like to have a lot of
fun communicating with people).

John R. Barker
President, getSynergized.com

Hi [Peter],

Thanks for the email. I had an interview to attend this morning.
It was to do with obtaining an International passport. It was
worrying me sick, but thanks to your mail you managed to install
confidence within me.

I reached the passport office on time, looked the interviewer
right in the eyes just like you advised and in no time the
interview was over. The good news is that the interview was a
success and my passport will be ready within a few days.

Thanks again for making me believe in myself and keep up the
good work.

My hope is that you will continue keeping in touch.

Kind regards,

Muunda Lyabola
Africa, Zambia

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If you follow these staggeringly simple, yet easily ‘doable’
lessons…you cannot fail to be more self-confident, at the same
time as having more charisma…whatever work you do.

Peter Murphy gives you some of the most cutting-edge personal
development technology there is, backed up with some stunning
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www.oursuccesspartnership.com

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Low Stress Communication And Good Conversation

Life is all about choices. And so is the way you communicate. You

can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or
you can have days of low stress effective communication with your
peers. And good conversation.

Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress
communication. Good conversation will then follow.

1 Recognize Positive Intentions

When someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright
rude it is easy to get annoyed, angry and even aggressive.

However this will just makes the situation worse and even faster
than you can imagine. Good conversation depends on the right outlook.

There is a better way. Instead look for the positive intention of
the person you are talking to. What do I mean?

Ask yourself — what is the positive intention behind this
behavior?

If the person you are talking to is angry maybe the positive
intention is to express some hurt or frustration. What is
important is looking for a positive not to get the correct answer.

When you assume the person has a positive message hidden
underneath the negative exterior you will have more compassion
and patience and you will not feel so stressed dealing with the
individual.

Low Stress Communication And Good Conversation Is Then A Possibility.

2 Choose Your Own Emotional State

You hear me talking a lot in this blog about managing your
emotional state. Why? Because it is an essential life skill.

Good conversation cannot happen if you are stressed out.

Unless you are in charge of how you feel your ability to
communicate effectively will always be limited and dependent on
other people.

When you are in a potentially stressful situation and everyone
around you is losing their cool this does not mean you have to
join them! You will be able to contribute a lot more if you
remain calm and centered.

Staying calm and resourceful is a choice you can make.
Unfortunately it is all too easy to be a sheep and simply follow
the crowd. Nobody says you have to be a sheep!

Instead make a point of keeping yourself in a resourceful state.
If you need more help with this refer to my book:

http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/

3 Step Outside The Situation

Whenever I am in a highly charged situation I will often step
outside the situation — in my mind. This helps to defuse the
event for me.

You can do this too. Simply imagine that you are at the other end
of the room watching the interaction between you and the other
person or people.

It is as if you are a neutral observer with no emotional
involvement in the discussion at hand.

When you do this you will think of ideas to handle the
situation better and you will also feel less bothered by the
stress of the other people.

This is one technique you need to play with first in easy
everyday conversations. Once you get familiar with it you will
find it easy to mentally step outside the event while still
participating with the people in front of you.

Stress or relaxation which do you prefer?

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