Monthly Archives: July 2005

Better Communication Skills

When you think about it — why do you want better
communication skills? What will it give you?

Apart from better relationships at home and at work most
people want to be able to get rapport more easily with
people they meet. And this is where so many people take a
wrong turn.

Instead of learning advanced communication skills which are
easy to learn and straightforward to apply — they learn
about body language and think that matching and mirroring
is all they need.

The problem is that everyone and her aunt already knows
about body language. So you end up matching John while John
is matching you and you both end up feeling drained and
exhausted because one of you feels tired and the other one
mirrors it.

You both end up stuck in a negative feedback loop unless
one person happens to be feeling dynamic. The resulting
rapport is weak and is always based on the principle that
misery loves company.

Basic rapport skills without intelligence and flexibility
will get you nowhere fast. What you need is rapport
grounded in solid advice that works. So that you feel
phenomenal while going far beyond pacing and matching body
language.

If you are not in control of your relationships and
respected by people at work and at home you really do need
to stop paying attention to all of the misinformation based
on body language tricks and simplistic advice that cannot
and will not work.

What does work?

In my own experience and that of thousands of people who
use my approach each day — it is absolutely realistic for
you to make a massive and immediate improvement in your
quality of life WHEN you get your hands on accurate advice
and techniques that work for real people like you and I.

You really do deserve to be respected and appreciated by
the people in your life. You already know deep down that
you want your voice to be heard. You want to count.

Having said that I must warn you – do not test my step by
step system unless you can follow instructions. I tell you
exactly what you need to do to develop superior people
skills but I cannot do it for you. Applying the principles
and techniques is up to you.

That´s why now is the ideal time for you to get your hands
on my proven step by step system – test it for 365 days and
prove to yourself that advanced communication skills are
easy to learn when you have accurate information.

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Your Friend,

Peter Murphy

P.S. I advise you to reserve your place today to ensure you
are not on a waiting list for email coaching. I have only
so many hours in the day! And if it gets any busier I may
have to drop that from the list of 7 extra bonuses at:

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The Price Of Regret – Effective Communication Skills

by Peter Murphy

Sometimes all you need to improve your people skills is a
little determination and a slight shift in perspective.

What do I mean?

Have you ever felt bad after the event when you neglected
to thank someone for helping you? Or maybe, there have been
times when you forgot to encourage a family member before
an important event such as a birthday party or award
ceremony. Those feelings of regret tend to linger and weigh
you down. It feels uncomfortable.

However these very same feelings of regret are powerful
forces we can use to make sure we don´t “forget” again!

Now, how can we use regret in a positive way? It´s simple
really. Whenever you are talking to an individual or group
of people notice when you feel shyness or the tendancy to
be reserved kicking in. Note that familiar pattern as it
starts to take hold.

Then, ask yourself: will I regret this later if I don´t
speak up? And really dive into the discomfort of how much
regret you could feel later on when it is too late.

The key is to give your full attention to the potential
feelings of regret – really feel how it will be if you hold
back in this moment instead of speaking up.

(Of course this only works if you have some preparation in
what to say and how to say it. Review my book and the bonus
reports to brush up on the techniques.)

Very often you will find that the pain of regret is much
more potent than any nerves you feel in the moment. Your
concerns about saying the wrong thing or looking silly will
often fade into the background as you hold in mind how
heavy the regret will feel for days to come.

What can you do now? Like all new techniques and
distinctions – start small and start today! Then, as you
get a feel for this new approach use it in more challenging
people situations.

Bye for now,

Peter Murphy

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
revealed the secret strategies all high achievers use to
communicate with charm and impact.

The same techniques you can use to overcome shyness,
develop great conversation skills and build self-confidence.

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