Do you feel that extreme shyness is taking over your life and you just cannot stand in front of a crowd or even enter a room full of strangers without a feeling of insecurity assailing you? Each person does have some level of shyness within themselves, but it is never healthy when you let the fact that you are shy hinder your social, professional and personal interactions with other people. Therefore, it is vital to go beyond shyness and overcome your fears and insecurities so that you can have a thriving social life. Here’s how:
1. Think beyond the box.
Most shy people have all these fears and insecurities that is why they are extremely hesitant to speak their mind out, mingle with strangers, or interact with a person whom they do not already know. The reason for this is that once they are assailed with their self-doubts and insecurities, they fail to think outside of the box by thinking that they are the only ones who feel this way. If you are extremely shy, you need to remember that nobody’s perfect and that other people have insecurities and self-doubts, too.
However, the difference lies in the way that we let these feelings affect the way that we deal with other people. Most of the ‘people’ persons actually have a ‘Who cares?” attitude to some extent. So what if you make a mistake or if you commit a blunder in front of other people? The important thing is for you to keep your composure, to remain polite at all times and make sure not to offend anybody – and finally, have the ability to laugh at yourself and find humor in the situation.
If you keep on having these straitlaced ideas that you need to be all prim and proper when in the company of others because you will be embarrassed to death if you do not – it will prevent you from being spontaneous and having a chance to take things lightly and essentially have fun when socializing.
2. A little smile goes a long way.
People are attracted to other people who have a positive way of looking at things. When you enter a room with a smile on your face, you will ooze a confidence and friendliness that people will respond to. Although you may feel all nervous inside, your shyness in front of other people will be diffused once you smile and you see the positive response that your attitude will gain from other people.
3. Arm yourself with knowledge on a wide array of subjects.
You can definitely go beyond that feeling of shyness once you arm yourself with knowledge on a broad area of subjects. Sometimes, shyness is rooted from the simple fear of not having anything ‘intelligent’ to say. To counteract this, you need to read, watch television and basically expose your mind to a wide range of topics – from the latest showbiz or political scandal, to the arts, music, film, books – even mundane subjects like traffic and the weather is good enough to start a conversation with.
4. Feel good about yourself and your positive attitude will ooze out and affect others.
Shyness is stemmed from self-doubts and insecurities. If you get rid of these negative thoughts and feelings and just decide to have a different, more positive outlook in life – then it will show on the outside. This is your key towards going beyond shyness and learning to love people and life in general.
Shyness on any level is something that you need to get over with. Do not let shyness hinder you from having a fruitful social and personal interaction with others. By practicing the aforementioned ways of thinking, you can adapt a positive attitude of going beyond shyness – and enhance your interpersonal skills in the process.