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6 Simple Steps to Improving Your Self-Esteem And Self Confidence

Simply put, self-esteem is the mental image we have of
ourselves. People with a good self-image are more likely to
be successful in all aspect of their lives. Their positive
attitude is likely to help them in school or a work and they
are more likely to develop positive relationships than
people with poor self-esteem.

People who suffer from poor self-esteem often find
themselves struggling to accomplish even the most simple of
goals. They often feel that they are not good enough, smart
enough, attractive enough or even simple just not enough.
These negative thoughts can impact  upon your life every

There is hope, though. You can develop positive self-esteem
if you are willing to put the time and energy into it.

1. View mistakes as opportunities to learn something new

Try not to think of mistakes as something bad; instead take
the chance to learn something new. Life itself is a process
of learning and everyone, no matter how perfect they seem,
can learn new things.

Why are you any different? If you make a mistake, step back
from it, think about what went wrong and determine what to
do to avoid the same mistake in the future.

2. Nobody is perfect, so don’t expect yourself to be

Instead of focusing solely on perfection, focus on
obtainable goals. Do not limit yourself by your need to be
perfect. If you enjoy running, don’t wait to enter a race
until you are certain you can win; just enter the race!

3. Stop being so negative

People who suffer from low self-esteem focusing on what they
think are wrong with them. Anytime you find yourself doing
this, counter yourself with one positive thought. If you
find yourself thinking ‘I’m too fat too fit into those
jeans’, counter the thought with something like ‘I’m proud
of the fact that I’ve lost three pounds – I’ll fit into
those jeans in no time at all’.

Another excellent ‘positive thinking’ exercise is to write
down three positive things about yourself each night. After
a week or two, go back and read them; you may be surprised
to read about what a great person you are!

4. Step out of your comfort zone

Let yourself out of your ‘safe’ place and try new things. Go
to a new restaurant or try out a new hobby. It is a great
way to find out what you are really good at (or what you
really like). Take pride in that.

5. Open your mouth

Your thoughts have merit and value, so share them with
others. Do not fall into the trap that your ideas or
opinions are ‘dumb’ or ‘stupid.’ The next time someone asks
your opinion, tell them what you really think. Even if your
opinion is different to theirs, it is still valid.

6. There is no magic wand to change things

There are some things you simply cannot change. While there
are some  things about yourself you can change, like your
weight or your personal style, there are other things that
you will simply never be able to change. Instead of hating
your freckles, realize they are there to stay and try to
learn to love them.

These are just a few ideas you can use to improve your
self-esteem; however, the most important thing you can do is
remind yourself day in and day out that you are worth it,
you are more than enough.

Surround yourself with positive people who love and cherish
you. Find something positive about yourself with every
completed activity. The more you say positive things about
yourself, the easier it will be and your self-esteem and
self confidence will grow and grow over time.

7 Simple Confidence Building Tips

Everyone knows how important it is to have a high degree of
confidence in yourself, but hardly anyone who doesn’t
already have high confidence knows how to get it. High
confidence is a state of mind, but there are actions and
steps you can take to improve your confidence level.

Taking the time to follow a few simple confidence tips will
help improve your self confidence and make you a happier

1. You cannot control everything, so don’t try to

We often waste a lot of our valuable time and energy
worrying about what might happen, even if we have no control
over the situation. Instead of wasting energy this way,
focus on things you can control. Do not waste your time on
events you have no power over.

2. Learn to visualize positive outcomes

Whenever you are trying a new experience or activity,
visualize yourself being successful at it. It is actually
very easy to trick your mind into believing that success is
a foregone conclusion.

Sit down, close your eyes, and use all of your senses to
imagine your success. Picture it in detail in your mind and
think what it would feel like to achieve this success. You
may be surprised at the effect it has as your subconscious
mind will be fooled into thinking you have already achieved
this success and it will make you behave and feel much more

3. Imitate a confident person that you admire

Look around you and find someone who has the confidence you
would like to have yourself.  Imitate their behavior. How
they carry themselves, how they treat others, and how they
handle confrontation are just a few of the key qualities you
should imitate.

If you can, sit down with them for a while and just talk
with them. One of the easiest ways to learn is by doing
that, so spend some time imitating a confident person to
learn confidence.

4. Shut down negative behaviors

Every time you find yourself handling a situation or
confrontation the way a person with low confidence would,
ask yourself how you would handle it if you had high
confidence and then follow through on that action. Some
people may consider this to be ‘acting’ but it is one of the
best tools you can use to raise your confidence level.

5. Always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel

When faced with a difficult situation, take some time to sit
down and honestly assess what can happen in the future, no
matter what it is.  If you do not like the outcome, change
your actions. This is one of the best tools you can use to
boost your confidence.

6. You can’t win if you don’t try

If you are too afraid to take a chance or try something new,
there is absolutely zero chance you will succeed at it. Do
not be afraid to try new things or experience. You may end
up finding a new hobby you enjoy or discover a hidden
talent: both excellent confidence boosters.

7. Remind yourself of all the things you do well

Your friends and family will all be able to supply you with
information about several talents and good qualities that
you have. Believe them when they tell you these things.
No-one can do everything but there are many things that you
will be able to do. Take confidence and pride in those
things that you are good at.

These simple tips are great ways to boost your confidence.
They are easy to implement in your everyday life and can
really change the way you feel about yourself. Having
confidence in yourself is one of the best things you can do
to have a happy life and to achieve even more things. That
in turn will increase your confidence. Make confidence a
self-fulfilling prophecy with these simple confidence tips.

10 Great Ways To Build High Self Confidence

The difference between feeling great about yourself and your
future and feeling worthless is the difference between
having good self-confidence and low self-confidence. How
you see yourself can vastly impact how people around you

Self-confidence can be a self fulfilling prophecy: the
higher your self-confidence, the more likely you are to
succeed. If you have poor self-confidence, it is important
you train yourself to have a better self image.

Here are ten simple things you can do to improve your self

1. Dress for success

Dressing in a professional manner will affect the way you
interact with the people around. Having a good grooming
habits and dressing appropriately will make a subtle
difference in the way you feel about yourself and the way
others perceive you.

2. Do not drag your feet

It is a proven fact that people with high degrees of self
confidence walk faster, so improves they way you feel about
yourself by putting a little zip into your walk. Walking
faster will also affect the way others perceive you. An
energetic walk means you have purpose and confidence

3. Stand up straight

Much like the effect of walking quickly, excellent posture
is a great way to display confidence. Poor posture and
slumped shoulders brings to mid a dejected person. The way
you stand can make you seem and feel more confident.

4. Advertise yourself

If you are ever in need of a little confidence jump, a great
idea is have a short speech that ‘sells’ your best qualities
and strengths. Recite this speech whenever you need to jump
start your confidence.

5. Be thankful

Instead of focusing on what you lack, spend time each day to
think about everything you have to be great full for.
Relationships, work, strengths, and accomplishments are
great things to recognize at the end of the day.

6. Give out compliments

Negative people often only say negative things. The best way
to break this habit is to practice saying positive things
about the people around you.

Don’t gossip and be sure to compliment those around you. Not
only will you break the habit of being negative, people will
start to genuinely like you which will, in turn, improve
your self confidence.

7. Sit front and center

People with Low self confidence often try to hide out in the
back of the back. Avoid this negative behavior by taking a
seat right up front in meetings or classrooms. The added
visibility will end up making your feel more confident.

8. Open your mouth

Low self confidence often means being afraid to voice your
opinion. Instead of sitting in the corner and saying
nothing, take a chance and let the people around you know
what you really think. You may be surprised at their

9. Exercise

Working out will not only helps your physical appearance, a
great self confidence builder in itself, it will release
endorphins into your systems. These are nature’s ‘high’ and
great way to feel better about who you are.

10. Make a difference

Help others around you whenever possible. Tutor fellow
students who need help in a subject you excel in or donate
some time to help the needy. Helping others will increase
your self confidence as you realize that you can make a

These simple steps will help you build up your self
confidence and allow you to feel your best, whatever you do.
You will feel happy to approach more and varied activities
and this will open up whole new horizons to you, so that you
can find even greater happiness with more things that you
enjoy doing.