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10 Easy Ways To Be Much More Confident In Job Interviews

No matter how many interviews you have gone to it never
really seems to gets easier, does it? That’s because each
interview is different. Each interviewer is different from
the last one and often the position you are applying for,
although in your field of expertise, is different even if
only slightly.

However, there are ways you can feel more relaxed and
prepared for interviews, and increase your chances of
getting that job or promotion that you’re going for.

Here are 10 tips to help you approach a job interview more
confidently and increase your chances of success. They don’t
appear in any particular order as everyone needs to improve
in different areas, but there is something here to help
everyone who has ever been nervous about a job interview…
and who of us hasn’t!

1. Treat each interview as special

As was already mentioned you should approach each job
interview as a new experience. Each interview requires you
to sell yourself and your skills differently. An interview
is about finding out if you are a good fit for a job, so you
should not try to parrot answers you rehearsed months ago
for another job.

Being well prepared for each interview will help minimize
your stress and increase your chances of landing that
perfect job.

2. Do your homework

Part of interview preparation is in knowing something about
the company you will be interviewing with. It also means
knowing at least the name and the position of the person who
will be interviewing you.

Knowing the job description of the position you are being
interviewed for is another important part of your interview
preparation. If don’t already know this information you can
get it by going online to the company’s website or by making
a phone call to their human resources department.

There is one question every interviewer asks during the
interview. That question is:

“Why do you want to work for this company?”

The question may not be asked exactly like this, but
something like it will be asked. If you have researched the
company it will make it much easier to answer questions like
this without having to figure it out at last minute and
you’ll also feel more confident.

3. Make time for interview practice

Once you have the information concerning the company and the
job position you are applying for you can develop some
anticipatory practice questions you might think you will be
asked in the actual interview. After making a list of these
questions you can then begin practicing answering them in
front of a mirror or in a mock interview.

Ask a friend or family member to help you with the mock
interview. Also, many school career centers are a great
resource for interviewing help. Your local library may have
employment videos that you can check out and watch from the
convenience of your home.

The point is to take advantage of as many resources as
possible to help you sharpen your interviewing skills.

4. Dress the part

The day before your interview select the clothing you are
going to wear to the interview. As you get ready to go to
your interview make sure that your clothing is appropriate
for the type of company you will be interviewing with.

Men should wear a nice pair of slacks with a dress shirt and
tie, or a suit. Women can wear either a skirt or slacks with
a decent blouse.

Both men and women should not dress provocatively or
outlandishly, or with an excessive amount of jewelry. If you
are going to wear jewelry keep it simple.

5. Take what you need to the interview

You will want to bring copies of your resume to the
interview to give to the interviewer, even if you had
submitted one with your application. Your resume should be
neat, clean and professional looking.

Also, take along a pen and pad of paper to take notes. Doing
these things demonstrates your sincere interest in obtaining
the position.

6. Be punctual

Make every possible effort to arrive to your interview on
time; in fact, be there a little early. Never be late.

If you show up to the interview late you just told the
employer that you are not punctual and will be late to work.
If you are going to be late you need to have a very good
reason then call the employer to explain the reason in
advance and see if you can reschedule the interview.

7. Stay calm

During the interview stay calm and answer questions in an
even and friendly tone of voice, expressing what you know
about the company and how your skills can enhance and
benefit the company.

As the interviewer is speaking demonstrate interest in what
they are saying, keeping eye contact while they talk. Never
let your eyes wonder around the room as this will show a
lack of interest in not only the position, but the
interviewer as well.

8. Sit comfortably

You don’t want to slouch in the chair at your interview, but
you do need to be comfortable. Try and sit up straight,
right back in your chair and take a few good, deep breaths.

This posture will not only make you look calm and in
control; it will help to make you feel this way too.

9. Ask questions

You don’t give over all control in an interview: at least,
you shouldn’t! An interview should also be about finding out
whether you want to work within in this company and do the
job you are being interviewed for. It may seem quite a
different place once you are actually there, so you want to
find out what the place is really like.

Also, asking questions like this will impress your
interviewer. It will make you appear interested and
intelligent and also willing to learn and to listen to
people. Realizing that you also have the right to ask
questions at your interview should help you stay calm.

10. Closing the interview

As the interviewer brings the interview to a close let them
know that you appreciate the opportunity to have received
the interview and restate your interest in the position you
were interviewed for. Leave the interviewer with a positive
impression of you and you will feel that reflected back at

You will feel much happier as you leave the interview room.

These tips are tried and tested ways to approach a job
interview more comfortably. If you prepare for your
interview well, and realize that your world will not end if
you don’t get this job, and also that you have the right to
refuse the job, even if it is offered to you, you should feel
much better about going through the interview process.

Be calm, friendly and open. The interview is not threat to
who you really are. There will be other jobs if you don’t
get this one and it may not be a job you would be happy in.

Approaching the job interview in a more detached and
rational and less emotional way, will help you to feel calm,
and that will mean you are much more likely to do well at
the interview.

Job interview confidence is achievable simply use all ten tips!

6 Common Traits Of Confident People

What is confidence?

Confidence is simply a matter of believing in who you are as
a person and what you can do. It gives you the strength to
achieve the goals you have set for yourself.

Confidence is an integral component of any healthy and
successful person. Having a good self image and the ability
to take responsibility for your actions are key components
of confidence.

Confidence is not a matter of feeling superior to others or
putting other people down in order to feel better about
yourself. In fact, people with the most confidence have an
uncanny ability to see the good in the people around them
and to encourage them in their endeavors without jealousy.
All Confident people share several characteristics.

Let’s have a look at those common characteristics of
confident people right now.

1. Self belief

Confident people simply believe that they can succeed and do
what they set out to do. They are able to define goals for
themselves and to take steps to obtain them. Their self
belief allows them to rise to any challenge. Believing in
yourself is a powerful force, motivating and empowering.

2. Assertiveness

All confident people have the courage to be assertive enough
to stand up for themselves and their beliefs. Even if their
opinion is considered unpopular, confident people will stand
up for what they believe in. Being assertive isn’t about
being aggressive or bullying. It is about stating what you
think and sticking to your own beliefs, not being swayed by
what other people think.

3. Optimism

Confident people have a realistic view of their future. They
can recognize that even bad situations will eventually right
themselves and that difficulties can be overcome with
sensible plans. They have the ability to see the light at
the end of the tunnel and plan their journey toward it.
Optimism allows confident people to believe that they will
be OK, no matter how bad the current situation.

4. Liking yourself

Learn to love yourself. Confident people have realistic
self-images. They can look at themselves and find things
they like. They don’t focus on the negative, instead
realizing the things that they do well.

However, they also recognize aspects of themselves on which
they have to improve and through improving these things,
they thus become stronger and more confident.

5. Taking responsibility

Confident people have the courage to take responsibility for
their own actions. When they make a mistake, they own up to
and admit they are wrong. They have the ability to learn
from their mistakes and make the changes needed to avoid the
same mistakes in the future. That in turn increases their
self confidence.

6. Complimenting others

Confident people have the ability to see the good and
positive things about the people that surround them without
feeling jealous. A confident person will celebrate the
accomplishments of friends, not get angry about them.

Confident people tend to be more successful in life. They
stand out from the crowd, have better personal relationship
and tend to perform better at school or at work. If you find
yourself lacking in confidence, it is a great idea to take a
look at the confident people around you and to mimic some
of their behavior.

Believe in yourself to make success more likely.  Be
assertive about your opinions and view to make yourself
heard. Be optimistic to realize that there is a solution to
every problem. Learn to like yourself for who you really are
and realize others like you for the same reasons. Take
responsibility for your actions and learn from your

Finally, compliment the people around you without jealousy
to create long lasting positive relationships. These are the
actions of a confident person who is sure to be successful
and happy at whatever he does. That is the real strength you
get from knowing what is confidence.

3 Steps To Improving Self Esteem

Poor self-esteem affects more than just your self image. A
poor self-image can make relationships with family and
friends difficult create stress, anxiety and loneliness. It
is one of the leading causes of depression and can
negatively impact job or academic performance. Finally, poor
self-esteem often leads to underachievement and
susceptibility to alcohol and drug abuse.

In an unfortunate cycle effect, the more the negative
impacts of a poor self-esteem become evident, the worse the
sufferer is likely to feel. This can lead to a quick spiral
downward in to deep depression that may lead to
self-destructive behavior.

If you have made the all important step to decide you want
to change your poor self-esteem and believe that you can,
there are three critical steps that can help you increase
your self-esteem. Remember that it took you a long time to
get to your low point and it is likely to take a long time
to heal completely, but you can improve your self-esteem.

Step One:  Silencing the Negative Voice

Perhaps the most critical step in improving the way you see
yourself is silencing the negative inner voice. Learning how
to effectively combat that negativity will help foster a
positive self image. It’s not as difficult as it sounds.

For example, imagine you have an important presentation to
make at work. After the presentation, your negative voice is
likely to start immediately pointing out all of your errors,
regardless of how well you actually did.

When this happens, try telling yourself three positive
things about the presentation. Perhaps someone agreed with
a point you made, or maybe you got some chuckles from your
opening joke, find three positive points, whatever they are,
and you will soon find that negative voice fading into the

Step Two:  Realize You Are Worth It

Another critical part of healthy self-esteem is self love,
so it is critical you begin to treat yourself like a
competent, worthwhile person. Low self-esteem often comes,
at least in part, from the way people have treated us in
our past, combating this history by learning to love
yourself is an excellent step in improving your low

Treating yourself like a worthwhile person involves three
simple steps.

First take care of yourself physically. Eat enough, sleep
regularly, and work out to take care of your physical needs.

Second, have some fun. You do not need to be ‘on’ all the
time, so take some time out of your schedule to do something
you truly enjoy. Take a walk, read a book, learn to paint,
whatever it is that makes you feel relaxed. Enjoy yourself.

Finally, recognize accomplishments by rewarding yourself.
Treat yourself to a night out after a good review, or have
breakfast with friends after a hard week.

Step Three:  Learn to Ask For and Accept Help

It is an unfortunate fact that many people who suffer from
low self-esteem are often uncomfortable asking others for
help. It is difficult for them to admit they cannot do it on
their own, but in order to be successful, it is important to
have the help and support of y our friends and family.

Let them know you are struggling with low self-esteem. You
may be surprised to hear the wonderful and true things they
have to say about you. Also, do not be afraid to seek the
help of a qualified councilor. Asking for help is not a sign
of weakness; it is a sign of great strength.

If you suffer from poor self-esteem, it is possible to
correct the problem. By learning to silence your negative
inner voice, learning that you are a worthwhile person and
asking for and accepting help, you will soon find your way
to a greater love of yourself.