Angry people are all around us and in our everyday lives. We come across angry people at work, while out in public places, and even at home. Sometimes a person is directly angry at us because of something we may have done or not done. At other times we are not the cause of a person’s anger but become the target of it.
Regardless if we are the cause of it or not we still find ourselves faced with dealing with it. What follows are some techniques to help with knowing how to deal with angry people.
1. Kill Anger With Kindness
One of the best ways of dealing with an angry person is not to take it personally and be nice to them, using kindness as you are talking to them. More times than not, words and acts of kindness heals anger like ointment on an open wound.
If the angry person is angry at you for something find out what it is and apologise for the offence in a genuine and sincere manner. But above all don’t indulge in the behavior. That is, don’t let their anger make you angry.
If you do it will be like throwing fuel on a burning flame and no one benefits when that happens.
2. Limit the Interaction
Some angry people actually look for a good fight sometimes. If you know an angry person who seems to be looking for a fight distance yourself from them as quickly as possible, especially if there is any mind altering substances involved.
Do not even try to rationalize with an angry person who is not sober. You will not win in defeating the anger of an intoxicated person and your attempts will only cause their anger to escalate.
3. Set Boundaries
Set boundaries, especially as regards to respect. However, be aware that if you want an angry person to respect you then you must first respect yourself.
Allowing people to walk all over you translates into a lack of self-respect and angry people are perceptive about who they chose as their target to lash out at.
If the angry person is a family member or friend let them know immediately that you will not tolerate being used as their whipping post. Grab onto self-respect and put your foot down firmly against misdirected anger.
4. Separate Yourself
Anger is a natural human emotion that we all experience from time to time. For example, a wife will become angry at her husband for not listening to her when she politely asked him to pick up a few things from the grocery store on his way home from work.
In this situation her anger would be justified because she had expected him to do something she asked of him.
However, if you have a family member or friend who is consistently behaving angrily, no matter what you do or don’t do, then it may be wise to separate yourself from that person permanently, or at least until they can get some help and a grip on their behavior.
Allowing yourself to remain around negative and hostile people will only harm you. Angry and negative people do nothing but create angry and negative situations for themselves and the people around them.
How to deal with angry people will largely depend on your relationship with them. You can walk away from an angry person you ran into at the grocery store. It becomes a little more complicated when dealing with an angry family member or friend. The most point, however, is to have self-respect and not let angry people use you as their target for unwarranted anger.