The following are a few tips for how you can get someone you care about to confide their troubles:

1. Gain the other person’s confidence

One way of doing this might be to share something about yourself with them. If you open up to them, they might reciprocate. If you have had a long relationship with the other person, and felt that you already trusted one another completely, you might be puzzled, or even offended, that they have not already confided in you.

Perhaps they are reluctant to burden you with their problems? If you suspect this is the case, you should approach them quietly, tell them that you know something is bothering them, and reassure them that you are there for them if they need somebody to talk to.

2. Let the person know that you truly care about them, and that you are not just being intrusive

Make them see that you are ready to help. Assure them that you are not going to be judgmental, and won`t be shocked by whatever they tell you.

3. Be prepared to be patient

The other person might not be ready yet to open up to anyone, so don’t try to force things. Just be there for them when they are ready to confide.

4. Choose a good place and time

Once the person is ready to confide, choose a suitable time and location to sit and talk. It should be somewhere where you are not going to be overheard, or constantly interrupted, and you should allow an infinite amount of time so that your friend does not feel pressured.

5. Make sure that you really listen to what they are saying

Lean towards them and make lots of eye contact to show that you are interested, and nod to demonstrate that you are following their account. Don’t interrupt, but let them maintain their flow, so that they can get things out of their system.

6. Give some sensitive prompts

If your friend is finding it difficult to express what they want to say, you could try to prompt them with a few gentle, yet probing questions, or make comments that move the conversation forward.

Ask open questions that require more than a yes or no response, and keep your tone quiet and reassuring. Don`t be afraid to let your friend be silent for a few moments though. They might need time to compose their thoughts, so be sensitive and don’t push too hard.

7. Don’t judge

After you have heard what the other person has to say, you must then ensure that you are not judgmental about what they have revealed, and don’t, under any circumstances criticise their behaviour, or else they will instantly clam up against you. Remain supportive and sympathetic.

8. Give some practical help

If there isn’t anything that you can do, remind them that you are always there for them, and that they can feel free to open up to you any time they are feeling low. Knowing that they have a friend to confide in will be a weight off their minds, and talking things over can sometimes be the first step to healing.

So, in order to get someone close to open up to you, you need to be supportive, tactful, discreet and not judgmental. Remind the other person that you are always there to lend an ear when they are troubled, and never betray their confidence.

In order to get people to admire you, you need to be someone who is worthy of admiration. You can gain the admiration of those around you almost by following a recipe. The dish you will have prepared is yourself: a better developed, more admirable you.

What do you need in order to get people to admire you?

First, you need to have developed good character traits. Then you need to mix in some integrity and a good values system to which you adhere. Lastly, you need to add a good dash of social skills in order to communicate these to other people. All of these factors contribute toward getting people to admire you.

1. Be selfless

Selflessness allows you to make people feel loved and appreciated without you necessarily expecting anything in return. This can be as simple as being a good listener when people need someone to talk to. Giving up some of your time to help other people, in charity work or just to do something good for a family member or friend is an admirable thing to do.

2. Be tolerant

People will be more likely to admire you if you make them feel special. This involves being tolerant of other people’s views and actions. Also, if you are tolerant of life’s ups and downs and you still come up smiling, that is something that people will find admirable.

3. Be honest

No-one admires a fake, so you need to be honest in order to gain other people’s admiration. That means that you must genuinely care about people and demonstrate that to them so that they believe it.

Behave genuinely with other people and let them know your real feelings. Even if you have something potentially upsetting to tell people, tell them. Just be sensitive about how you do that.

4. Have integrity

Develop a set of core values by which to live your life and then stick to them, so that people know what they can expect from you. Don’t do just about anything for money and don’t do anything to the detriment of other people.

5. Be trustworthy

If you say you will do something, do it. Be the person that other people can rely upon when they need help or someone to talk to. Keep people’s confidences and give good, honest and unbiased advice where it is asked for.

6. Be sensitive and thoughtful

Don’t trample on other people’s feelings or make them feel stupid for thinking or feeling in a particular way. So, think about how what you do or say will affect other people.

7. Be optimistic

There is already so much negativity in the world. People who are negative appear to be fearful and bitter. That is not admirable. Do, demonstrate that you see the good in anything and people will admire you and follow your example. They will want to be like you.

8. Develop your self confidence

In order to inspire admiration, you have to look like someone who sticks to their principles and knows what they want out of life. All this takes self confidence, to roll with the punches when life knocks you and to stick with your principles even if other people disagree with you or even criticise you for your views.

Remember, no-one is admired by everyone and you will always run the risk of meeting up with people who will try to damage your self confidence and say that you are living your life the wrong way.

If you have strong self confidence and your behaviour lives up to the above criteria, you should have some reason to believe that you have developed a good strategy for how to get people to admire you.

Loneliness also has the ability to come upon us at anytime and anywhere we might be at. We can be in a very crowded place and feel lonely just as we might when we are the only person in a room.

However, there are some strategies you can put into motion to help you. Here is a short list of ways to deal with loneliness.

1. Change Where You Are At

One possible way to deal with loneliness is to move from where you are experiencing this emotion. If you live alone, for example, and feel lonely, get out of the house and maybe take a stroll down a busy city sidewalk.

As you pass people by, try to connect with them with eye contact and a smile. Most people will smile back and this reciprocal connection may be the antidote to your loneliness.

Also, being of service to others, like at a food pantry or soup kitchen, can help you feel useful. When you feel useful you will feel connected. Often a lack of human connection can arouse the feeling of loneliness, so doing something useful for someone else can help to reduce your loneliness.

2. Change Who You Are Around

There will be times when you are around people you just can’t seem to relate to. This happens to many people, especially at social events and gatherings. You could be standing amongst a group of people that you just can’t seem to click with.

You stand there just nodding your head with a blank stare on your face because you can’t relate and connect with them. This can cause you to feel lonely. When this kind of situation occurs, politely withdraw yourself and seek another person or group to become involved with.

3. Switch Your Perspective

Factually speaking, loneliness is all in the mind. Again, loneliness is an emotion and is not an object outside of you. Therefore, it becomes possible to change it by changing the perception of how you are viewing loneliness.

One way to do that is to consider that other people are experiencing the same thing at the same moment you are. Looking through your loneliness towards another’s will ground you and help you feel more human because now your loneliness becomes a shared experience.

4. Take Relational Risks

Loneliness is all about you and your perception of our loneliness. But part of that perception is also about how you see your relational abilities. That is, if you believe you can’t relate to others and them to you then you just isolated yourself from connecting with anyone.

Everyone has something in common with someone else that will help you make a connection with them. There is someone in the world somewhere that you can connect with and them with you. And the way to find that connection is to let go of your faulty perception of loneliness and take a risk in allowing yourself to find that person you can connect with.

How to deal with loneliness is all a matter of perceptions and how you think and react to loneliness. Every human being experiences this emotion at some point in their lives. It’s unavoidable because it’s part of human nature. But what you do with it, or react to it, is what will make all the difference in the world to how you life will be affected by it. The choice is yours to make.

They smile, laugh at jokes, pay compliments and listen attentively to whoever they meet. You can do the same as well as some other approaches we will cover in this article to build better rapport with people.

Everyone wants to be liked so if you genuinely like people and let them know that you will quickly become appreciated and liked by whoever you are talking to. Like people and express that with positive feedback, acknowledgement and interest and its inevitable that others will want to spend time with you and get to know you better.

How can you show someone that you like him or her?

1. Be on the look out for what you like or can like in someone

Listen to the message behind the words spoken to spot the beliefs, values and goals of who you are talking to. This will reveal the true person you are getting to know. Look then for the positive attitudes and intentions people communicate.

Then its a simple matter of pointing out to people that you share some of the same outlooks and you can even say how much you like their viewpoint. This demonstrates not only that you have been paying attention but also that you have been listening carefully enough to understand the person at a deeper level.

Few people would complain that they are tired of everyone listening to then too much!

Here are a couple of examples.

- I see good health is important to you if you go swimming that much. Same here, I pay a lot of attention to staying fit and healthy.

- It sounds like you don`t have much time for TV with all the books you read each week. I `m too busy to watch TV too with the course I`m studying.

- I like talking to you. You have so many great stories.

2. Ensure positive and open body language

Imagine for a moment you are talking to someone you like and find very interesting. Go back to times in your life when this was the case to recall how you behaved in those situations. Notice how you interact.

This is a great way to be with anyone you meet and talk to. Adopt this posture and behaviour and you will be open and positive in how you communicate with new people. By positive I mean attentive, energetic and focused on the other person.

If you are stuck with getting a handle on this one find a good role model you can learn from. Think of a friend, colleague of relative who is wonderful at meeting and getting to know people. Now, try out his body language in a way that fits with your personality. Act out how he behaves, try it on for size and notice how you feel different.

Next, practice this new way of behaving with other people and notice how people are more responsive to you when you are more open and positive with your body language.

A few key points to bear in mind:

- maintain natural eye contact

- face who you are talking to

- avoid distracting behaviour such as moving about

- respect personal space

3. Give compliments and ask for opinions

When we compliment someone`s intelligence, knowledge, attitude or experience he will naturally warm to us and be more receptive. This is a good way to show we like these positive qualities of the person.

A great way to show someone you like him is to pay a compliment and immediately follow that up with a request for an opinion or guidance on a related topic. Here are a few examples.

- I`m impressed by how much you know about fine cuisine, can you recommend some good books so I can learn more?

- Your car is immaculate, how do you keep it looking so new?

- Your positive enthusiasm is refreshing when most people are so busy complaining. How do you stay so upbeat?

Remember, everyone wants to be liked but often we don`t communicate this directly and assume people know that we like them. No need to keep people guessing – tell them!

Believe it or not, starting a conversation with someone you do not know is easier than you might think. Here are some ideas that can help you with what to say when meeting new people.

1. Say something interesting

Part of knowing what to say begins with discovering what the other person is interested in. This discovery can actually become a lead to talking about mutual interests.

This is actually easier than you think. For example, anyone who plays golf wants to improve their game. If you are a golfer and have some pointers about the game this could be a topic to talk about when meeting someone new who is also a golfer.

2. Compliments

Complimenting someone is a sure way to get them to smile and acknowledge you. It will also open the door for you to start a conversation with them. Men are a little different to women when it comes to compliments, however. They do like them, but they like compliments about their abilities rather than their appearance. Women tend to smile at either kind of compliment, so long as you do mot appear overtly sexual about it.

3. Be courteous

Anytime you talk to anyone you should be courteous and this fact is even more so when meeting and talking to new people. When you are courteous in your conversation it sends the message to the other person that you have respect for other people. When first talking to someone you should always refrain from using foul and/or offensive language.

4. Use your surroundings

You may have to interest the other person if you want to engage them in a conversation with you, but you do not have to be too clever about it. When meeting new people, your aim should be in getting a conversation started. Say something which it is easy for the other person to respond to, such as using your surroundings.

You can remark upon an item of decor or the event which has brought you together. Make your comment positive and open-ended, so that the other person feels that their response is wanted and they can answer as they wish to.

5. Hello!

Although this is dealt with last, you should introduce yourself with a cheerful greeting right at the start of meeting new people. People will feel more connected to you if you have broken the ice and told them your name. They may not remember your name, and do not be offended if they do not, but the fact that you have given it to them will make you appear friendly and will make people feel more at ease in talking to you.

In this article you have learned some ideas about what to say when meeting someone new. But in doing so you should have discovered that it is not so much what you say that is important, so much as the fact that you need to be polite and courteous.

It is more of a matter of how you present yourself and how you speak to someone you have just met that counts. Practically any subject can make a good ice breaker so be creative and confident when you think about what you want to say when meeting new people.