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How to Improve Communication in Relationships

Unless you are a hermit living on a desert island or high on a mountain, you will most likely have to learn how communication in relationships works. You will have relationships with your family members, your neighbors, people in school, colleagues at work – even vendors in the market place. To improve communication in relationships, it is necessary to:

1) Be open to the prospect of improving communication in relationships.

2) Be aware that it is necessary for more than one party to change so that communication can be opened and enhanced.

3) Be open to changing your attitudes and way of speaking or writing, if necessary.

4) Be open to adjusting to the other party’s point of view, when that other person is proven to be correct.

There are people who find it hard to do all these. Such people may need the help of a counselor or psychologist to uncover and thresh out any possible problems hindering them from accepting these steps for change.

Improving communication in relationships may necessitate:

1) Fostering an environment in which all parties may feel encouraged to express their opinions without fear of being attacked, criticized, or made fun of.

2) Acknowledging that other people have a right to have feelings and opinions, just as you do.

3) Acknowledging that you may have problems with communicating in relationships, and that the problems exist not just with the other person.

4) Holding back from blaming the other party for all problems that crop up when communicating.

5) Acknowledge that you only have control over changing yourself, not the other person.

6) Going slow at relaying emotionally-sensitive information.

7) Opting to write down any perceived problems before sitting down with all other parties to discuss these problems.

Miscommunication is a pretty common result of a breakdown in communication in relationships. When does miscommunication become prevalent?

1) When one or both parties believe that their point of view is the only correct one.

2) When the individual belief systems of all parties concerned tend to clash because of inherent differences.

3) When one party prefers to keep his thoughts to himself, leaving the other party jumping to conclusions.

4) When one or both parties rush into message delivery without thinking that the message imparted may hurt the receiver of their message.

5) When one or both parties opt to use negatively-worded statements when addressing the other person.

So how does one improve communication in relationships? Communication can improve if one takes the following advice to heart:

1) Learn to see things from the point of view of another person.

2) Use words which have a more positive slant to them so that the other person will not react negatively.

3) When possible, try to encourage and motivate the other party to improve – particularly if the other party is a subordinate.

4) Do not react in the heat of anger.

5) Think carefully about what words to use before you speak them.

Communication with another person can be affected by our powers of persuasion. How does one manage to persuade another person to accept his point of view? Here are some ways:

1) Restructure your message according to the point of view of the other person.

2) Maintain a friendly environment in which you and the other person will communicate.

3) Supply proof to back up your own statements.

4) Think if you are in a position to supply what the other person wants. If you are, then perhaps you should attempt to meet such desires, needs or expectations. Certainly a person whose wants have been satisfied will be in a more accommodating state of mind, meaning most likely he will try to acknowledge in return what you need.

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Put Love Into It

by Peter Murphy

If there was a simple yet very powerful way to
get what you want in life, would you want to know
the secret?

In this article I reveal all. Read on to discover
how to have the love, happiness and success you
want – more easily and sooner than you expect.

After twenty years experimenting with different
self help philosophies and techniques I recently
made a surprising discovery. Let me tell you how
that came about.

I am a reluctant healer. What I mean is that I
never set out to be a healer but life had
different plans for me. And, ironically, I get
remarkable results for people.

Now, I don´t really heal anyone. I simply provide
energy and the body intelligence of the person I
am helping uses the energy I provide to heal the
body.

Interestingly, my healing work gives me an
amazing insight into how energy works, how to
allow more energy to flow and how to let go.
These very principles are the same ones you need
to use to create a happy life.

The more energy (enthusiasm, inspiration and joy)
you have and the more you let go the easier it is
to not only get what you want but to enjoy the
journey too.

This is all very well but how do you use this
knowledge to create life on your terms?

By experimenting with the healing energy I have
found that the most powerful energy is love. When
I put love into my healing shifts happen much
faster. Sometimes faster than I believe is
possible – this love energy has no concern for
limiting beliefs!

In your life, you can put love into it and have
much more happiness and success as a result. It
will also transform your relationships at home
and at work. Why? Because when you put love into
it you generate a very attractive energy field
that draws people to you. You may even become
luckier because love keeps you in the flow.

How do you put love into it?

1. Start with Love

When you start your day give 20 minutes to
meditating on love. If you already know how to
meditate you can adapt your approach to focus on
feeling love.

If you do not meditate you can listen to music
that causes you to feel love. You could also hold
in mind someone you love and feel that love
deeply for 20 minutes.

Do this and you will be glowing when you go out
into the world.

2. Choose Love

During the day simply notice if you are feeling
love or not. If you are not you can then choose
to feel love.

We create the feelings of love in our heart
chakra so simply imagine you are radiating love
from your heart. Choose to feel love and you will.
Over time this gets easier and easier.

Love is the glue of the universe – it keeps us
together and our dreams closer still. Every time
you choose love you connect to all of life and
things start to click.

3. Love and Wanting Love

Generating the feeling of love is very different
to wanting to be loved. This is a key distinction.
If you generate wanting love that is what life
will reflect back to you. We do not want to do
that.

Feel having love, being love and acting with love
with intensity. That is the secret.

4. Lightning Fast Manifestation

You can use the love feeling directly to achieve
your goals. If you would like to meet new people,
be more successful at work or happier at home you
can make things happen much more quickly with the
power of love.

Here is how to do it…

After you charge yourself up into the love state,
by doing what we covered earlier, and you have
strong feelings of love hold in mind what you
want.

Let´s say you want to date someone special.
Imagine and feel as if you are already dating
him or her, here and now. Feel the love feeling at
the same time and you will see much faster
manifestation of your dreams.

Now, think about what you really want and go and
put love into it!

About the author:

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He
recently revealed the secret strategies all high
achievers use to communicate with charm and
impact. The same techniques you can use to
overcome shyness, develop great conversation
skills and build self-confidence.

http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/

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Better Communication Skills

When you think about it — why do you want better
communication skills? What will it give you?

Apart from better relationships at home and at work most
people want to be able to get rapport more easily with
people they meet. And this is where so many people take a
wrong turn.

Instead of learning advanced communication skills which are
easy to learn and straightforward to apply — they learn
about body language and think that matching and mirroring
is all they need.

The problem is that everyone and her aunt already knows
about body language. So you end up matching John while John
is matching you and you both end up feeling drained and
exhausted because one of you feels tired and the other one
mirrors it.

You both end up stuck in a negative feedback loop unless
one person happens to be feeling dynamic. The resulting
rapport is weak and is always based on the principle that
misery loves company.

Basic rapport skills without intelligence and flexibility
will get you nowhere fast. What you need is rapport
grounded in solid advice that works. So that you feel
phenomenal while going far beyond pacing and matching body
language.

If you are not in control of your relationships and
respected by people at work and at home you really do need
to stop paying attention to all of the misinformation based
on body language tricks and simplistic advice that cannot
and will not work.

What does work?

In my own experience and that of thousands of people who
use my approach each day — it is absolutely realistic for
you to make a massive and immediate improvement in your
quality of life WHEN you get your hands on accurate advice
and techniques that work for real people like you and I.

You really do deserve to be respected and appreciated by
the people in your life. You already know deep down that
you want your voice to be heard. You want to count.

Having said that I must warn you – do not test my step by
step system unless you can follow instructions. I tell you
exactly what you need to do to develop superior people
skills but I cannot do it for you. Applying the principles
and techniques is up to you.

That´s why now is the ideal time for you to get your hands
on my proven step by step system – test it for 365 days and
prove to yourself that advanced communication skills are
easy to learn when you have accurate information.

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Your Friend,

Peter Murphy

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