People ask me all the time – what can I do to gain self confidence? And I give the same answer. Nobody wants to hear the truth but I`ll tell you anyway so you need to be open minded and prepared to test it for yourself.
You develop confidence by making a habit of doing what is impossible for you. That`s it in a nutshell. Yes, you can prepare better, you can visualise success and you can even read tons of books about gaining self confidence but none of that good work will amount to anything unless you get out in the real world and do what is impossible for you.
Be unreasonable, do the impossible and make a habit of going beyond your previous best and you`ll discover something amazing about yourself. You are much more capable and much stronger than you can even imagine. It is only when you stretch beyond your self-imposed limits that you discover how powerful you really are.
When you see great achievers rack up success after success they go beyond their own previous best results. They make a habit of doing what is impossible. And often they persist and achieve greatness simply because day after day they persisted in moving the imaginary line of what is possible.
If you want more self-confidence with people you can develop it quickly by making a point of always going beyond previous limits. Aim to get rapport with the difficult people in your life, assert yourself with those who never listen and go ahead and talk to those people in your community you always wanted to talk to but didn`t because you felt shy.
Over days, weeks and months of going a little beyond your self-imposed limits you`ll notice your confidence growing and growing. Feeling confident and in charge will be your new normal way of living.
Is it really that easy? Yes, it is as long as you have an attitude of always learning and improving. Sometimes you`ll make mistakes. That is perfectly normal. Even the most successful and confident people have ups and downs. If you try and fail simply try something different next time and even better get advice from someone who has proven skill when it comes to what you are becoming more confident at.
If you want more confidence at work for example you could talk to a family member or friend who has a track record of confidently moving ahead in business. Ask how he does it and simply copy his approach in a way that suits your personal style.
Again let me repeat the fundamental principle you can take onboard and act on today to develop lasting self-confidence… you develop confidence by making a habit of doing what is impossible for you.
And because confidence is an emotional state that “I can do it” feeling in one activity will positively impact all aspects of your life. If you go beyond your limits in sport, at work or remodelling the house, you`ll notice that feeling confident becomes your normal way of feeling regardless of what you are doing. You`ll feel more capable dealing with problems and issues in all areas of your life and as a result you will make better decisions and people will be much more responsive to you.
People like and respect confident people. As you become more confident you`ll find others are more attentive to what you say and more willingly to help you out. And that is one of the most important reasons to put an end to lacking confidence. Life is more enjoyable and its easier to get ahead when you get the respect you deserve. Its like walking with the wind at your back instead of walking headfirst into a gale.
Start right now and gain self-confidence by making a habit of doing what is impossible for you. Living like this puts the excitement back into life. Go ahead and test these ideas and you`ll see what I mean!