The most valuable asset anyone can have, in interactions with others, is trust. Trust is the number one value between parties of any interaction. Even when first meeting someone we automatically begin to evaluate their trustworthiness.
Trust is an intrinsic part of human nature. It is part of our natural protection system and has been one of the most important foundations of all human connections since the beginning of time.
Therefore, if you want to develop good relationships with other people, it is very important that you know how to get people to trust you.
If you want to gain the trust of others there are some things you can do:
1. Get to know people well if you want them to trust you
People develop trust for others through familiarity and experience. The more you get to know someone the more they will trust you, and vice versa, unless you specifically break that trust.
Trust is the result of the reciprocal familiarity and experience with those that are around you and involved with your life on a regular basis.
You can’t expect people to trust you from the start, but you need to work on being trustworthy from the beginning of a relationship. That way, you don’t begin from a deficit of having already appeared untrustworthy. Once trust is broken, it is difficult to get back.
2. Spend time with those you are interested in getting to know and whom you want to trust you
The best way to build the trust that you want people to have in you is to be around the people you are wanting to build a trust with. This of course goes hand in hand with getting to know people. Courting is a good example of spending time to gain trust of another. As the relationship develops and grows the more trust that is given to each partner from the other
3. Be available to help those around you
A great way to help build trust is to think beyond ourselves when it comes to the needs of others. You might ask, “How can me helping others build trust?” The answer is this: “People will gain trust in you due to your positive behaviors and the help that you give to others with positive behavior.”
4. Be honest with all those around you, even when that honesty might hurt
One of the strange things about honesty is that it can hurt in some situations. But when you are honest in all situations you will get respect which will translate into people trusting you. If you are dishonest with someone, word has a way of getting around to others and gaining trust from any of those people then becomes more difficult.
5. Be sincere in your intentions with everyone
The key to people believing your intentions is in your follow through. If you say “I will do that” then do it to the best of your abilities. If you can’t do it for some reason then let the other person know.
Most of trust building is founded in your communications with others. Part of your communicating with others requires you to be sincere if you expect to gain the trust of those around you.
Getting people to trust you is totally your responsibility. By demonstrating trustworthy behaviors you will gain the trust of those around you. The flip side to the coin of trust is: “if you violate people’s trust its a challenge to regain”.
These are some simple methods for how to get people to trust you and avoid losing trust. Use these as a your starting point to get peoples trust.