Getting people to be around you is really not all that difficult. Every human being is social by nature and we all want to be around other people.
Realistically, the problem of how get people to want to be around you has more to do with you than it does others. For example, if you are pompous and arrogant few people are going to want to be around you because of your overbearing personality.
The first lesson is this: what attracts people to you, or cause them to avoid you, is your personality and attitude. But if you want people to be around you here are some things that you might think about to help yourself.
1. Accept and respect yourself
This idea may sound confusing on the surface. But it’s actually not if you think about it. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to accept yourself as you are and respect that.
Acceptance and respect from others comes from our confidence in ourselves, because we accept ourselves, mixed with a healthy amount of humbleness and humility. People are attracted to this kind of balance because you are being ‘real’.
2. Act naturally
This reflects confidence in oneself. When your inner feeling of acceptance mixes appropriately with your thought processes you will act naturally, like a human that is comfortable with themselves. When you project a comfortable feeling about yourself this helps others to feel comfortable with you, thus attracting them to you.
3. Don’t make fun of others to make yourself feel better
It is fun, for example, at a party, to exchange friendly banter to get everyone loosened up and laughing. But to make fun of people because you think you are better than others will not attract people. It is distasteful to make fun of others in that way. Avoid making fun of others for any reason. That’s the best solution.
4. Don’t focus on the mistakes of others
We all make them no matter how perfect we think we might be. If you have a need to focus on the mistakes of someone else turn them into something that helps them at a time they are receptive to your help. This technique has a way of building trust and friendship.
However, focusing on a mistake of another is a form of exploitation. It’s an attack on the other person. When most people see you communicate in this manner with anyone they are already thinking about avoiding you.
If you have a problem with focusing on the mistakes of others then it is best you say nothing at all unless it is positive.
5. Think before you say anything
The words that come out of your mouth speaks volumes about the kind of person you are and what you believe in. Believe it or not everyone evaluates an initial interaction within the first few moments of that interaction. It’s an instinct we all have.
Within those first few moments we are already deciding if it’s a good connection or not.
Moreover, communication is not just about the words that come out of your mouth. There is a little more to it than that. We all watch each others’ body language when we interact with them. It’s another instinct we have. We are more attentive to this sense within the first few interactions of meeting people, but as the familiarity grows we develop more trust and become less focused on personality traits.
These are some of the best ways how to get people to be around you. Apply these in your daily interactions and people will want to be around you.