What is the best way to have confidence?
Many people think confidence is something you either have or do
not have. It is not that simple. Even highly confident people
have times when they lack confidence or privately worry about
their ability to keep on achieving good results.
Thankfully, we can all become more confident and take charge of
this valuable emotional state. It is easier than you think!
Here are a few quick tips on how to have confidence:
1. Know your best time of day
Are you a morning person? Or are you more dynamic later in the
day? Access to our personal greatness depends to a large degree
on our physical well being.
Pay attention to when you tend to be at your very best and where
possible use those times to get involved in the activities that
require you to have confidence.
For example, if you want to ask your boss for a raise and you
are not a morning person then wait until later in the day and
catch her when you are both in a good emotional state.
2. Forget about perfection
Confident people know they can handle whatever happens and they
believe this even if they do not always produce perfect results
You can do the same. Decide that you will do the very best you
can in the moment. Aim to give 100% but do not demand
perfection. This attitude frees you to get things done and to
keep learning and improving.
Those people who aim for perfection live very stressful and
demanding lives. And ultimately their confidence will suffer
because they never quite live up to their high expectations.
3. Build confidence in unrelated activities
Confidence is simply a feeling. This is good news because it
means you can develop greater confidence in yourself outside of
the activities where you sometimes lack confidence.
If you lack confidence meeting people but are good at sport, for
example, then spend more time playing sport to get used to
feeling confident again.
You could also play this sport before you go out to meet people.
The confident feelings you enjoy playing sport will help you
later even though meeting people is an unrelated activity.
The key then is to spend a little time each day on activities
that flex that “have confidence” muscle until feeling confident
is your normal state of being.
Now, go and play with these simple tips. You know how to have
confidence. With a little time you will find yourself feeling
confident more and more often until it becomes second nature.
For more help, check out my audio on self-confidence here: