Communication Skills Power

Everyone suffers with that nervous feeling whilst meeting someone new; it’s a perfectly normal feeling. It is human nature to get anxious whilst facing the first introduction, that face to face meeting of a stranger.

So just why do we get nervous? Because we are trying to impress! No-one likes rejection. The feeling of rejection from a stranger is what makes us so nervous in the first place!

Below are some tips to help you push those nerves to the side:

1. Take a friend with you.

The thought of having to walk into a room and meet new people can be enough to make you vomit! Try to avoid the nerves by taking along a friend along with you. That way you are not alone and even if the person that you’re meeting turns out to be a total loser, you have the back up of a friend!

2.Yoga

Yes I know what you’re thinking! , all that bendy stretchy stuff is nonsense; well you couldn’t have been further from the truth! Yoga is a great way to relax your nerves, after exercising you will feel confident enough to meet new faces.

3. Remember they are only human!

It’s very easy to forget that the people that you are going to meet are really just human; there is absolutely no need to start to panic and worry about the way they will perceive you. When you panic that’s when things start to take a downhill slide.

4. Relax

When you are not feeling relaxed then your brain can’t function properly, you start to forget things and begin to clam up inside.

5. Make a list

I don’t mean turn into a nerd! However, if you know in advance that you have an appointment with someone new. If there’s the slightest chance that you will start to get nervous and you need to ask questions, simply jot them down on a piece of paper!

This will help wave goodbye to those nerves.  It’s great to do this when going to a job interview, perhaps a doctor or midwife appointment.

6. Treat yourself to a new outfit

New clothes and a new image mean a new opinion on things; you will feel confident and efficient with your new image.

If you look good on the outside then you are planting the seeds for success on the inside! You will be surprised what a new outfit can do for you.

7. Be yourself

A common problem whilst meeting new people is that we tend to want to impress a little too much. An example would be a man trying to impress a woman; he might go a little overboard and try to make the image a little too big!

If you don’t be yourself and stick to your values, then the person that you’re meeting will ever know the true you. Don’t be fake it doesn’t get you anywhere in life. You will impress today and tomorrow will look like a total fool when the truth comes out.

8. Remember that you can’t impress every one

Although you would love to it simply is not realistic to think that everyone can be impressed. Life is full of ups and downs; it’s not the end of the world if someone doesn’t like you.

9. Positive thinking

If you are feeling positive and don’t allow negativity to kick in then you won’t have the, what if and buts. Positive thinking is the way to go!

Life is short and you really can’t afford to waste time thinking about how others perceive you. If you are happy then that’s all that matters! People don’t bite; meeting new people is a part of life that you have to get used to.

The art of conversation really is a wonderful skill; the simple skills to keep a conversation alive can be the deciding factor to how successful you are going to be.

Starting a conversation and maintaining a conversation really are two separate factors. As with anything there is a start, middle and an end.

Below are some tips that will help you to keep any conversation alive:

1. Don’t be a conversational bully. Avoid making people feel as if they are forced to listen to what you have to say.  Shouting and raising your voice won’t get you listened to.  It will just frustrate you and the other party involved.

2. Learn the difference between conversation and speech.  These are 2 very simple things to get mixed up on, whilst giving a speech you are being listened to. When one is having a conversation then 2 parties are involved! A conversation is word exchanges between 2 or more people.

3. Don’t shy away from phone calls. A lot of people shy away from phone calls don’t hide when the phone rings its great practice for talking face to face.

4. Questions are the key.  Yes keep the conversation a drift and flowing with questions! Questions are excellent for making the conversation continue. Even if you are really fed with the topics just act as if you are interested by generating questions.

Some excellent questions for keeping the conversation afloat are:

Who?

What?

Where?

Why?

When?

How?

Really?

Is it?

Do you like…?

These suggestions might seem rather random; however try them out in a test run and see the results.

5. Don’t be boring. If you are on a date and need to impress, then being boring is a big no-no! You won’t even know when you’re boring the other party. Try to avoid subjects that are all about you: how you are good because you did something etc.

6. Perhaps you will feel tempted to brag or turn the tables and start talking about you ex girlfriend or boyfriend. On a date this is a crime; you really can’t do this.

7. Talk about the other person. A great way to keep the conversation going is to talk about the person that you are talking to! Pay an interest into their upbringing, social values, and way of life. If you show interest to the other person then the conversation will never die!

8. Be interested but don’t be nosy. Know your limits, gossiping and extracting information from people with nosy behaviour is extremely frustrating. You most certainly won’t be getting a fan club by behaving in this manner. People won’t want to merge in conversation with you again. Nosiness and gossiping is the final wave to a healthy conversation flow.

9. Don’t pretend. Learn when the subject of conversation isn’t something that you’re comfortable or familiar with then politely change the subject; pretending that you are interested in something and know about that thing, is a recipe for failure.

10. Be lively. Talk with energy and incorporate fresh new topics to the conversation. Talk about recent news flashes, what’s happening in the world.  For example if you start a conversation on the topic of politics, it’s sure not to end anytime soon!

You should feel privileged with the gift of talking. Don’t build up barriers and unnecessary obstacles to stop you from words of conversation. If you follow the above tips then you will notice improvements in no time at all. Conversation should be fun, to interact with people and to engage in talk is a way of life. Once you can talk and keep a conversation going, you can be sure that you will be able to maintain good relations with friend and relatives.

Are you fed up of the everyday trials of life, perhaps struggling to express your thoughts and opinions? These days people want to talk and not listen! It can all become too much in this day and age no one wants to be a shadow in the crowd having your thoughts and opinions heard is a priority.

The very achievement of being able to express yourself and more importantly be listened to is an extremely rewarding feeling. Just how can you express your ideas and opinions clearly and maintain that you are listened to?

Below are some factors that will help you to voice your opinions and ideas:

1) Know what your aim is

Make sure that before attempting to open your mouth and the words begin to flow that your 100% clear on the ideas that need to be expressed. Knowing where you want to go with the conversation will help to give you that extra confidence boost.

When your audience can see that you are confident then they will be more alert and want to listen.

2) Ignore the definition of perfection

Just sit and ask yourself, exactly what is perfect? Is there anyone out there that is 100% perfect? The fact is that we are only human and the reality is that not one of us is perfect without flaw. A small error is acceptable, there’s no need to be stringent to the point that you begin to struggle voicing your opinion! As long as you know the topic of importance, a simple error can be overlooked.

3) Keep it basic

Think why you cut off when someone is voicing their opinion; remember your days at school and college with teachers lecturing in front of the class.  Being lectured is boring!

There really is no need to use big words. The simple facts voiced in an exciting manner will be more than enough to keep the audience tuned in. It’s extremely annoying to have someone chatting away for 30 minutes, when the conversation could have been kept basic ending in half the time.

Stay on the straight and narrow; turning left and right really is not going to turn into a success story. Don’t make the listeners fall asleep!

4) Pretend that you are alone

One of the major fears of having to express your opinion in front of a crowd is how you will be perceived by the audience.  Can you really afford to let negativity like this get in the way?!

Picture that you are alone and voicing your opinion to yourself! Your nerves will remain calm and allow you to remain focused on the topic that you need to address.

5) Revise before you talk

Yes simple revision of your conversation will help you take it to the next level. The very factor that you are confident and know what you are talking about will help significantly.

When people that you’re talking to know that you certain on what you’re expressing then they will have faith in you.  Think about possible questions that might arise from your topic of conversation and have the answers readily prepared in your head!

Learning to voice your thoughts and opinions really is a simple process, we are all human and each of us has worries and fears. Talking should be fun not a drag; you should have confidence in yourself. If you know that the topic that you are addressing is of relevance than don’t fear! Let the words flow.

By reading the above tips and putting them into practice you will be able to become a lot more confident and expressing your thoughts and opinions will become a piece of cake!