We’ve all been there, a party, a date, a get together of some sort with family, friends or a community group and then the conversation wanes. So, what to do when conversation dies? Let’s look at some steps you can take to resuscitate a conversation.
1. Pay attention to what others say over the course of the conversation
In so doing, you can pick up valuable pieces of information. What subjects have they talked about, have they spoken of their family, hobbies, or maybe what their favorite sports are? You can then ask questions about those subjects, or maybe offer talking points of some of the subjects.
2. Ask questions
This goes hand in hand with point one. If someone has spoken on those subjects – ask about them. If they haven’t – ask about them. Something as simple as “where you from originally?” can lead to a real boost in the conversation.
It is often said that there is nothing people like more than to talk about themselves. Ask someone in the group a question about themselves.
3. Study current events
Sometimes you want to avoid the subject of religion or politics, especially given how angry the current US political system has made people.
There are plenty of current events that can help to beef up a waning conversation. Pay attention to recent movies, new music artists or releases, TV shows, and what celebrities are up to.
Also, what’s going on in your community? Is the local high school football team going to be playing a game soon? Is a community theatre getting ready to put on a new show? Are there arts and crafts fairs, art festivals or any other type of public events coming up?
By talking about any of these events, you can renew the energy of your chat. You can talk about religion, politics, and other so-called hot button issues, if you truly feel comfortable with all of the people in the group, but be wary of this.
4. Share something personal
Are you currently dating or married? Do you have a wedding or graduation coming up in your family? Do you have a special interest or hobby?
Maybe you write in your free time and a short story you wrote, or even a full book is going to be published.
You can talk about that; just be wary of dominating the conversation by doing nothing but talk about you and your accomplishments.
5. Check out your surroundings
Where are you: a house, an art gallery, a museum? Start talking about something around you. While some places do not lend themselves to a great conversation, you might see something that makes you think of some place great you’ve been, and you can then shift the conversation to that subject.
6. Six degrees of separation
While this is a game, it’s also what to do when conversation dies. Think about some subject someone mentioned, and think of something else to talk about. As an example: someone spoke of a vacation to Hawaii. When the conversation wanes, ask yourself what Hawaii makes you think of: pineapples, the TV show Hawaii-Five-O, surfing? You can then bring up this other subject.
7. Tell a joke
Depending on the makeup of the group, you might be able to tell a risque one, or you might have to go with a clean joke. The point is that a little humor can go a long way toward lightening the mood, and getting people to continue talking.
Most people know at least a few jokes; so if you tell one that can lead to other people telling more.
These are some useful pointers on what to do when conversation dies. With a little practice, you’ll do well at keeping any sort of social event alive.