The difficult way to handle meeting new people is to hope for the best, think on your feet and leave everything to chance. Maybe it will turn out ok then again maybe you`ll be tense and nervous, stuck for words and wishing you knew what to say.
Thankfully there is a better way, a much better way. There is a simple formula the experts use. Anyone who is good at meeting people knows a few simple ways to ensure that everyone enjoys the occasion.
What to say when meeting someone for the first time:
1. Talk About What Interests People
Find out what you can about the people you will be meeting.
- what are their interests and how do they spend their free time?
- where do they live? What is their profession?
- What are they passionate about?
A mutual friend, a colleague or a neighbour can fill you in on what drives whoever you are about to meet. If you don`t know anyone who can give you some background on these people then you need to be more flexible and observant to find areas of commonality that can spark a good conversation. Listen carefully to what they say, look for clues as to what interests them and ask open questions to discover what they enjoy talking about.
The key is to open the conversation with a topic that is of interest to who you are meeting. This is a great way to engage their interest and get them listening to you. Start with an easy conversation topic and let the rapport build. First impressions count so make sure to keep the conversation light and fun at the beginning. No need to talk about heavy issues from the get go.
2. Be Friendly And Generous
When meeting new people make sure to be relaxed, easy going and open to sincerely listening to what people are saying. Approach conversation as a form of giving – give attention and time to who you are talking. When you are a giver there is nothing to lose and you don`t approach people with an attitude of wanting something from them. This generosity is what allows you to be relaxed and at ease meeting people.
And when you are relaxed and giving you will be friendly and attractive to other people. People want to me meet easy going people who are interested in what they have to say. Be that person and you`ll find that meeting new people is a lot of fun.
3. What To Say?
The key is to be positive, energetic and easy going. You can talk about a wide range of topics if you do so with the right attitude. Maybe you want a list of fool proof topics to use when meeting someone for the first time. You do, don`t you? Well, that doesn`t work because if you neglect your non-verbal communication the words will fall flat and leave nothing but awkward silence.
That`s why what to say starts with discovering what the other person is interested in as a lead to finding topics of mutual interest. Now, this is easier than you think because certain types of people share similar characteristics and similar interests.
- all golfers want to improve their game
- all parents wants their children to be healthy and happy
- all career minded people want be more successful
Consequently, listening and paying attention will quickly reveal to you the background, interests and concerns of whoever you`re talking to. Then, simply steer the conversation in the direction of what is important to them. In the case of a parent for example you might talk about a family friend who has the happiest kid you`ve ever seen or the parent down the street whose kids love doing homework.
To sum up. Discover what people are interested in and what is important to them. And remember, you can only do that if you are genuinely interested in getting to know them and if you listen carefully to what they say. Finally, when meeting someone for the first time be a giver. Approach talking as a way of sharing and giving – this allows you to be the kind of easy going attentive person everyone likes to meet and get to know.