Too often, people put their relationship aside and do not give it the attention it deserves. Our world has become so high-tech and high speed; we are all rushing around, bound and determined to get things done. The result is, we do more things, but get less done. A relationship, like any other part of your life, needs attention in order for it to grow, develop and survive.
When trying to decide what issues you need to focus on in order to keep a relationship healthy, the first needs to be communication. You have to be able to talk; even if you do not agree about things. There is an old saying about how opposites attract. Yet, there is another one that says oil and water can not mix. So, which one is right? Well, they both are. Opposites can attract, and get along, so long as they can talk.
Another important issue is mutual respect. When you are together, you need to be aware of your partner’s feelings and do not insult or demean them in front of others. Often in films today you will see a husband made the butt of jokes in front of friends, family, and even the children. This is fine for a comedy movie, but not real life. If you run your partner down in front of people, you will only end up hurting them. Is that truly what you want? And ask yourself this: how long will they put up with it? There is that all saying, the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It is a pretty good rule to live by.
Next, there is the matter of shared responsibilities. If you or your partner are a stay at home person, either to only take care of the home, or also young children, that is one thing. But, these days, most couples both work. So, you should talk about how you will share the household chores.
It needs to be fair and flexible. Maybe you do not mind loading the dishwasher, but hate unloading it. So long as you can divide this issues up in a fair manner, you can work things out where one of you does not feel put upon.
Of course, there is always the issue of sex. Even today, many people are a little embarrassed to talk about it; even with their partner. This is especially true if you have a particular fantasy, but you should still strive to talk about such things. A good way to start is by asking them if they have some fantasy they would like to try, and then be open to doing it. If he (or she) wants you to wear a sexy outfit, try it! If they saw a movie and want to try something along those lines, give it a go. So long as something is not illegal, there is nothing wrong with a healthy fantasy life.
Then there is the issue of compromise. This can perhaps be the most powerful means of improving a relationship. After all, there is no guarantee that you will agree on everything. Nothing says you have to be in perfect sync’ on every issue. Yet, if you can agree to disagree, and then find the means of working through it, this will lead to a healthy relationship: compromise is a simple act, yet a powerful one.