The Amazing Secret To Making Great Conversation With Anyone You Meet

by Peter Murphy

Although you may forget at times...great conversation is easy when you know how

You already have a great deal of the essential communication skills it takes to make great conversation.
The only problem is you often stop yourself from performing at your best.

You might do this by demanding perfection of yourself or by waiting for the ideal moment before you speak up. In either
case you are setting yourself for failure when there is a far easier way. (read on for great conversation secrets)

Sometimes all you need to achieve a personal breakthrough is a slight shift in perspective.

I highly recommend you adopt my simple two-step approach to communication confidence:

Two Steps To Communication Confidence:

1. Treat Conversation Starters As A Test

Make a statement or opening comment and then put all of your attention on the other person. Pay very close
attention to his response.

Does he seem interested? When he responds, does he do so with enthusiasm and energy?

If he does you have found a winner. Great! Keep talking about that topic you introduced.

If the other person seems disinterested simply regard that response as a signal to try a different topic.

It is feedback and not to be taken personally.

Now, introduce a new topic of conversation. And again pay very close attention to the response of your listener.

To sum up. All you do is... test a conversation topic and pay attention to feedback.

When you adopt this outlook it will take a lot of pressure off you. You will feel more confident about starting
conversations because as long as you prepare beforehand you will have several potential topics of conversation.

It really is just like fishing. Throw out some bait and see what happens.

2. Keep The Winners And Drop The Losers

The more topics you explore the greater the likelihood you will strike gold. Just keep testing the waters for the
winners that are waiting for you.

However when you do find a conversation topic that draws in the other person keep it alive. Share your thoughts, ask
questions and make the most of the moment. Make sure you contribute first as this encourages the other person to
share as well.

At some point that discussion will fade. Then go back to step one and fish for more topics of common interest.

Drop those that run out of steam and invest more energy in the ones that grab the other person.

This is exactly what world-class communicators do. They constantly adapt to the responses of the other person.

Why?

Because conversations are a dynamic two-way interaction. To perform well you must put most of your attention on the
other person. Then adapt to the feedback.

This is a key distinction.

And this change in perspective can give you the confidence to be at your best when you are dealing with people.

Forget about being perfect and instead adopt an attitude of searching for good conversation topics.

Prepare beforehand by keeping up to date with local issues and other matters of common interest and always be ready to
use the old favorites:

- the weather
- pets
- family
- latest news

People never stop talking about these topics and they make for easy ways to get to know people without any pressure.

Okay, time for you to get testing.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
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